How do I work?

Our body stores our memories, traumas as well as subconscious beliefs (and these are all usually intertwined with each other in various ways). I help you release these traumas, memories and limiting subconscious beliefs. Releasing something from your system does not make you forget it, but it will stop having an emotional impact on you. Even if you don't know what problems you have or don't remember having any traumas, I can help you discover, unpack and release all the hidden layers. 

Our belief system is essentially like a computer program that we run on. And our life runs on it as well. We pick up this ruleset mostly in the ages of 0-8 but also later from our family, our surroundings, the culture and media etc and it unfortunately happens very subconsciously which is why we are not even aware of it. It is much more nuanced and runs much deeper than this example, but just to get you started:

Say you were playing by yourself when you were little and accidentally got hurt and then ran to your mom for comfort. But your mom was currently stressed out over some work matter that she quickly had to finish and your feelings were brushed to the side, you were asked to toughen up and not to bother them as they had more important things to do. Depending on the rest of your childhood and your character, this could result in various limiting beliefs being created, but a few good examples are "I am not allowed to show my feelings" (or even worse - even feel them) or that "I do not deserve love". 

If you have "I do not deserve love" in your belief system, then you tend to attract people into your life that will not give you love. Even if a truly genuine and good relationship shows up, you will do something to subconsciously sabotage it yourself, because it goes against your ruleset. It also makes having genuine friendships complicated, you might feel you need to earn out the love from your friends by constantly giving them favors while not being able to accept any help yourself, because deep down you believe you don't deserve it. If people give you compliments and gratitude it can feel like lies that they are giving out of pity. 

Our psyche is made up by these rules and the way we function every day is defined by it. 

During our sessions, I help you understand your limiting beliefs, even if you consciously can't think of any. We release them for your system and rewrite them with positive ones.  We dig deep into your specific conditioning. What rules and where did you pick up, how are they still affecting you. This is done through both conversation as well as more intuitive work in your body.

Trauma is a deeply stressing or disturbing experience, it also includes experiencing physical distress. In case of trauma, it is not just the limiting beliefs we need to deal with (and trauma usually gives as many of these), but we also need to let go of the energetic imprint of the event itself and all the suppressed emotions surrounding it that we haven't allowed ourselves to feel. I have learned that our mainstream definition of trauma is not enough, so much of our normalities are in fact traumatizing and not dealing with it is causing us to live stuck in a fight or flight situation, being constantly stressed and worried and unable to enjoy life.

As I help you release your trauma and limiting beliefs I also teach you how to slowly become more active in this process with each session so that eventually you actually can do it to yourself as well and heal on your own.

Yes. And... no. I have not yet met a client who didn't get positive results from our work together, but the speed and magnitude of the change is very much dependent on where you are in your life / mindset. It's this deep inner feeling of "I absolutely cannot go on like I have until now a day longer and I deeply want to change" that brings the fastest results. Essentially you need to be ready for change. It takes courage to admit that some of the things that went down in your life and some people that you really deeply care about are in fact not very good for you and this is needed to face the truth about yourself. If your are in a state of "someone else should come and rescue me" then the results will not be that noteworthy.